“You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t
happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard
this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the
best of me. I’m moving on with my life.”
― Joel Osteen
― Joel Osteen
Every day everyone comes face to
face with this issue. It is one of the hardest things to do in life. “Forgive and
forget”, they say. . . You know it’s a lot harder than just that. The feeling of either a friendship or a
relationship still permanently thrives in your soul. After all you may have
known the person you that hurt you for years; they could have even been your
very own blood. Just what do you do after the dust settles? Do you choose to
ignore them when you see their face? Do you choose to continue to have a
relationship with them? Do you choose to pretend they never existed? Only you
have to make these decisions.
I have
had my fair share of the obstacles in my life, maybe too many than a woman should.
I have been beaten, sexually abused, cursed, and told that my life will never
amount to anything good. I also have been hurt by many people whom I have
called my friends. One thing that I have learned and made me strong is that you
cannot continue to dwell on these thoughts of the past, because it will almost
always affect your future! You are the ONLY person that can decide that the
issue at hand will affect you the rest of your life.
“Your actions speak louder than
words” Remember that? You might have heard this from your mom or close family
member. This quote is very true! The other person can almost always know how
you feel about a situation with how you react to what has happened. Don’t let
you anger get the best of you because it almost always follows with regret
anyway.
You get only one life. Try to not
fill it with a bunch of negative energy. Negativity will bring you down over
and over as quick an anchor thrown into the deep sea. What you choose to surround
yourself is what you will become. Negative energy can bring an ego upon you
that you were never wrong. You have to accept that what has happened might also
be your fault. Accepting it, owning up to it and asking for forgiveness rather
it be for the other person or yourself. Playing the “blame game” never did any
good for anyone! That will only feed your ego. After all, no one knows of the
day they will go to their complete forever slumber.
You will never forget the past;
even though the bad may seem stronger then the good, you can’t let it take over
your mind. Hold onto the good and keep the positive thoughts. In time your
wounds will heal, nothing ever happens over night. Everyday take the step
towards healing. A little bit times a little bit equals a lot even if it happens
over the couse of 10+ years. You have to believe in yourself that this is possible. You can free yourself from the pain that binds many.
